Femdom. A femme presenting human taking on the traditionally masculine role of being dominant.
Okay.
Dominant. Dominance. To put it simply, it could be defined as the act(s) of aggressively chasing your whims. Sometimes with empathy and a sense of care behind it, oftentimes not.
So why the absolute fuck are other femdoms and (especially why the fuck) subs such weird little prudes about how it’s packaged and presented? If the whole thing is centered around the dominant person being dominant, by the definitions as I understand it, that means doing it how you want to. If people want to partake with you, groovy. If not, oh well.
That’s the extent to which anyone should give a shit about how any femme chooses to advertise or participate in femdom, especially sex work. We have amatuer real life Dommes out here accidentally killing their subs and you care about whether or not I’m okay with nudity in my sessions. Or whether or not it’s sexually explicit outside the realm of general humiliation/dominance.
Get a fucking grip.
The coolest thing about femdom (and sex/sexuality/sex work in general) is that variety. That two people can technically be doing the same thing and it ends up being two totally different experiences. That’s amazing and often taken for granted I think. We end up creating our own little bubbles and after a certain point I think the complacency of posting every day can make it easy to completely close yourself in and not notice what others are doing in a way that feels more like appreciation and less like envy.
And allowing the customers to control the narrative to the point you are more focused on what other SWers are doing, while they’re just minding the business that pays them is more than a bit fucked.
Come on now.
I don’t have much faith in other humans, I barely have faith in myself some days, but any SWer who sticks around for more than a year or two knows that some people we interact with just want to start shit. They search for a reaction the way a needy child does. Good or bad, they don’t care. As long as a reaction occurs, their tiny little skin tag of a dick gets hard and leaks something that once could have been considered human.
Obviously, not all fans/customers/subscribers/perverts/whatever are like this. And if you felt like that sentence was necessary because the last paragraph offended you, you’re likely the type of person I was talking about. Hit dogs holler.
I have no clue what I hope to accomplish by writing this out, to vent I guess. That’s what this whole website is, one big release valve that I’m so damn happy to have. And I’m sure I’ve said that over and over again, but it’s still such a relief.
A tiny, dark digital island for me to occasionally seek solitude on. Watching the waves lazily crash into the shore until a thought washes up that I can run around with for awhile.
Beautiful.
